Over a life time the individual will see the world in a rather distorted (and suitably tailored) manner based on their past learning’s. However, these distortions can make pain seem pleasurable and vice versa. Smoking is an easy example to consider (although any undesirable circumstance in one’s life will equally apply). A person normally starts smoking because of social pressure and/or copy-cat behaviour. Smoking allows the person to feel good and relaxed. The brains’ warning system will be over-ridden due to these needs being met. This will create a suitable pattern for when a person feel stressed, when socializing, when bored etc… The smoking fix, like any self-destructive behaviour, temporarily removes any undesired emotions so the person can feel better and relax. That is why it is difficult to quit smoking, because it is providing positive value to the individual’s life. It is important to remember that no matter how destructive the behaviour is, if it is giving some sort of positive value, the individual will not let it go. Furthermore, the individual must realize that the person they see in the mirror is merely the past reflecting back at them and is no way an indication of what may develop in the future.
With age regression therapy we can go back in time to find the feelings associated with a hidden problem that the smoking is suppressing. Once found, the therapist can work with the client to better understand any mis-understood, or wrongful acts that created those negative feelings. Once these insights are gained, the client will be able to change their behaviour based on a greater perspective of their life. Like most things, smoking is often just a scapegoat to the real problems that aren’t being acknowledged in the persons life.
Now a New Pattern Can Be Made
Once the initial event that created the negative pattern has been discovered, processed and learnt from, the individual will be in a space to create a new pattern. One that is better equipped to deal with similar circumstances without the need for self-destructive behaviour. This process of integration seeks to “make one whole again”.